Coaching is a PROCESS DESIGNED TO HELP MEN GROW.

Coaching is much more than an hour of talking! There will be tools, homework, reading, and direct feedback. You will grow as you put into practice the tools you’ll gain from our work together.

My approach is rooted in attachment theory, trauma informed, and story driven.

I believe all effort to change must be highly relational. We will give lots of room to work through your story while remaining focused on your current goals. I believe that as you experience greater self-awareness your relational alignment and your leadership will blossom.

By the end of the process you will have deeper emotional connection, a plan for continued growth, and resources to develop relational connection.

TOPICS COVERED

  • Career, calling, competence

  • Compulsions, addictions, and self-management

  • Finding purpose in your relationships

  • Work/life balance

  • Family Issues and relational difficulties

  • Faith (doubt, spirituality, prayer, etc.)

  • Battling self-doubt, shame, codependence, and toxic inner-voice

the Cost

Typically, my clients and I meet twice a month for 6 months; 2 x 6 = 12 sessions at $100 each.

Total cost for 6 month process = $1,200.

If paid upfront, I offer a 10% discount. Otherwise, payments are due at each session. 

“Coaching with Gabe will probably be a pivot point I will look back on for the rest of my life. While he pointed me to good resources that helped me, the biggest gift was having a safe presence to process with. Someone who got mad for me when hearing about things done to me, someone who laughed with me, someone who empathized with me while calling me upward. Coaching with Gabe is more than prescriptive living; it’s entering the depths with a guide and friend who holds the light out and walks with toward freedom.”
— Hayden (artist)

Overview

  • 1 | Admission (naming the problem)

    Growth begins with awareness, and awareness begins with naming the problem. For most of us, life seems to work for us until it stops working. We find success and acknowledgement, but it often comes at the expense of loosing ourselves in the process. The ignored wounds we carry aren’t just water under the bridge, they will eventually build up against the dam and at some point present themselves in problems, often in major ways.

  • 2 | Awareness (finding the roots)

    In month 2 we will continue becoming more aware. We move from naming the problem to looking at the root of the problem in our story. As we do this narrative work we will pay special attention to what our bodies and our emotions are telling us. God created our bodies wonderfully, and much of it’s design is for our flourishing. As we pay attention to our bodies and emotions we may find deep and surprising healing.

  • 3 | Acceptance (coming to grips with you)

    Month 3 is all about regulation. A wonderful thing happens as we began to give our story and our emotions space - we move towards acceptance of things we have long tried to stuff and ignore. As we come to accept the narrative arc of our lives, we come to accept life on God’s terms rather than our own. Acceptance is key to living a settled and free life.

  • 4 | Attunement (feel your feelings)

    In month 4 we start to outline what restoration could look like. Restoration isn’t a perfect, linear process. But, there is a simple process that gets us there. Attunement is vital. Attunement shows up when we feel our feelings, tell the truth about ourselves and our lives, and give it away to God and others without expectation about outcomes. As we come alive to ourselves and our feelings, we make ourselves so much easier to tune into.

  • 5 | Attachment (life-giving relationships).

    We are designed for connection, intimacy, and attachment. A child comes into the world knowing one thing - it must attach to a caregiver. When attachment is broken and abused, we move through life with a huge void. Unless our attachment is healed and we find healthy connections rooted in intimacy, we will continue to wonder and feel the void.

  • 6 | Alignment (congruent identity)

    Our final month together is all about expansion and alignment. As a coach I want you to grow and expand. I want you to solve your specific problem and be equipped with the tools to do so. I believe that most of our problems are relational, with narrative driven reasons for their ongoing nature. I believe that in relationship we can began to heal, and that as we do so our God-given and tue identity will start to shine.